Once upon a time, I was the girl who never said no to anyone. I strived for complete perfection in all aspects of my life, and part of that included pleasing everyone around me. When asked a favor, I always said yes. When criticized or chastised, I always politely agreed, that yes I should have done better.
Saying “no” to people we love and care about can be hard. Especially as women, we feel a natural aversion to please everyone around us. Sometimes, though, there are situations in which saying yes to a favor, promising to attend an event, etc, can result in us stretching ourselves too far. We have to listen to ourselves and allow ourselves to say “no” when we know that it is what is best for us.
I still do favors for my friends and family, but I do them because they make me feel good. I love these people, so naturally I want to make them happy! However, I also need to keep myself happy! Saying “no” in certain situations allows me to stay happy, and be more present for my friends and family.
Sometimes you have to put your big girl Slytherin pants on and just say no.